Even though I don’t think a guy should be paying $230 on a date, especially on a first date. I do believe the guy should be the one who pays for the date, since I’m very old-fashioned when it comes to relationships. If dating is getting to be too expensive, then maybe you should stop paying $230 on a date. Also, if you expect the girl to pay her share then you should tell her that before you guys go on the date. That way you don’t embarrass the girl and it won’t be awkward. I leave all my money and debit cards at home when I go on a date, because I shouldn’t have to pay for my share of the date. If I did then it wouldn’t truly be a date. It doesn’t matter that society is changing, men should be paying for the dates. I believe in the act of chivalry.